Proverbs 12:18 says, “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
As I read these words, it struck me how true they are. Words are powerful things, that when angry, we wield with the most force to do the most damage. I imagine a battlefield, littered with the casualties of war, the two opposing sides fighting in the midst of the other. Swords are swinging, battle cries heard over the clang of the sword, and in the chaos, it’s hard to determine whose the good guy and whose the bad guy. Until, sword pierces flesh, and being severely wounded, one side sounds the retreat. The war is over, but the wounds remain.
That is how I envision disagreements between husbands and wives. They both use their words, quickly and in the heat of the moment, both letting their pride prevail. Not until they take a step back do they see how wrong they were. We are all a works in progress and should recognize the benefits of kind, gentle words. Nothing says “I’m sorry, I was wrong,” like your arms around the one you love, reminding yourself how much you love that person.
We are not perfect people and I pray your battles are few and far between. But when they do arise, I hope your words are kind ones- for they are like honey, healing to the body and sweet for the soul!
“Pleasant words are like honey, sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” – Proverbs 16:24